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Apr 24

Baby Experts

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by LifeLoveLaura on April 24, 2014

Today on Life Love Laura we have something a little bit different – a guest post by Donna from Redhead Babyled. Donna thought this post might be a little bit controversial but reading it as a first time mum, I find her post more reassuring than controversial. We all think we’re doing something wrong at some point but we’re actually doing better than we think. Donna explains why…

Since finding out I was pregnant with LP, over 3 years ago, I have heard so much about Baby Experts, Baby Specialists, Baby Gurus. People who claim to be able to teach you all there is to know about babies. How to make your baby sleep, how to make your baby happy, how to feed your baby the right things, how to get your baby to use the toilet. From birth onwards there are dozens of ‘Experts’ who know exactly how to care for your baby – But don’t worry, they’ve written a book, filmed a DVD and even made youtube videos, websites and Twitter accounts so that you can know exactly how to care for your baby too.

The thing is, not all babies are the same. Every single baby is different. Each baby has the same fundamental needs of food, comfort, warmth and sleep but other than that all babies are so incredibly different – that is what makes the human race so amazing – we are all, from the minute we are born, individual.

The Blissful Baby Expert has a whole guide of ‘expert’ advice on ‘everything baby’. Gina Ford promises to help you raise a ‘contented baby’. Jo Frost knows everything there is know about raising children. Tracy Hogg will teach you what each of your baby’s cries mean and exactly what your baby wants/needs.

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The fact is, there are so many people who have written books, and ones that haven’t – family, friends and people in the street, who will all be happy enough to tell you how to deal with your child, what is best for your child and what your child needs. Some of these people have books that give step by step instructions or even a twitter account for on the spot help, day or night. However, none of these people know YOUR baby.

There are so many people in life that specialise in something – No mechanic specialises in ‘Cars’, they specialise in Mercedes or Ford. Surgeons don’t specialise in ‘Humans’, they specialise in Cardiothoracic Surgery or Neurosurgery. Even Scientists specialise in a certain area Albert Einstein with Physics and Alexander Fleming with Bacteriology – No-one has specialised in Science.

Why is it then that these ‘Experts’ can specialise in babies? Individual little people who cannot be pigeon-holed, cannot be made to fit in a mould and who are all so different?

I know a lot of parents would like an instruction manual – they like the reassurance of knowing they are doing things the right way, that they’re not messing up this parenting journey and aren’t having any ill effect on their children. But really, parents just need to have faith in themselves and their choices. As a parent we are programmed to make decisions for our children and all we can do is hope that they are the right decisions. No-one knows your child better than you do and if you just do what you think is best you can’t go far wrong.

Some babies get fed to sleep, others rocked to sleep, others co-sleep. Some babies have a set bed time, set nap times, a proper routine. Other babies sleep when they want, eat when they want and spend the rest of the time being cuddled. There is no right or wrong answer. A book cannot tell you what is right for your baby.

When it comes down to it, the only expert on your baby is you.

I couldn’t agree more! You can follow Donna on Twitter at @GenuinePlacebo or find her on Facebook.

Laura x

 

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Mar 11

Share your nursery: Elaine & Angus

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by LifeLoveLaura on March 11, 2014

Oh how I love Tuesdays as it’s “Share your nursery” day! This week we have the lovely Elaine and Angus…

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Hiya, I’m Elaine and I have a wee boy called Angus who is 6 months old now. We live in Central Scotland  along with our devoted slave Andrew, AKA daddy and hubby.

Becoming a mummy

After 5 years of trying, we were blessed with Angus. Things were really difficult for the first couple of months and due to the problems we had with him not sleeping at all in his moses basket initially, we bought a Toddle Pod which you can see in the picture placed inside the cot which I covered with an extra layer of super cosy fleece as it is winter here in Scotland so gets quite chilly! He has been in that since he was 3 weeks old & I think really helped. I breastfed for 9 weeks & as soon as I changed to formula Angus was like a different baby much more relaxed & happy thank goodness.

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I have found parenting so very hard at times & have recently been diagnosed with post natal depression. I really don’t know what the hardest thing about it is so far but I would have to say the unknown & learning, oh there’s so much to learn all the time! Not to mention all the differing opinions on how things should be done it’s very overwhelming trying to decide on what’s best for you and your baby! The one thing I was not prepared for at all was TEETHING, it is absolute hell. I wish I had known so I could have known what to expect but it hit me really hard. Angus just cannot cope with it at all – you name it, I’ve tried it!!

Has becoming a parent changed you at all?

I feel that becoming a parent has changed me in that my life revolves around Angus now. Instead of online window shopping for me I’m always buying things for him! I’m also a bit more laid back about life in general and for the first time ever I am usually late for everything now whereas before I was always on time, organised & efficient haha!!

The question on every new parents’ lips – how do you cope with the lack of sleep?

I have been so lucky with Angus. After our initial problems, with guidance from a lovely lady called Lisa Clegg at Blissful Baby Expert (you can find Lisa on Twitter here) we started loosely on a bit of routine which Angus and I both thrived on and he has been sleeping through the night 7pm-7am from around 12 weeks old.  I am so grateful for that!

Share your nursery

life love laura share your nursery elaine and angus

life love laura share your nursery elaine and angus

life love laura share your nursery elaine and angus

life love laura share your nursery elaine and angus

life love laura share your nursery elaine and angus

Did you decorate whilst you were expecting or did you wait until Angus arrived?

Strangely I wasn’t one of those mums to be that obsessed over nursery decor. Our nursery was always a spare room which had plain lilac wallpaper & carpet & some old furniture to store bits in.  The plan was when Angus is a bit bigger we will swap rooms with him so we didn’t really see the point in going to the expense of decorating the nursery we would rather save the money and decorate it when he’s a toddler and has a favourite cartoon character etc. We are very short on storage space so I got one of those hooks that goes over the door & I hang his jackets & snow suits on there, which is handy. We had to put Angus in his cot really early and it wouldn’t fit in our room so we have a single bed in his nursery that I sleep in.

I love tatty teddy so I bought a few wall stickers & light switch cover sticker just to baby up the room a wee bit.

What is your favourite part of the nursery?

The main thing I wanted was a nursing chair as I planned to spend a lot of time in it with baby and I’m so glad I did. It has become part of our routine, we cuddle up in it  and he knows it’s feed/sleep time and it’s also comfortable for me.

What are the most useful items in the nursery?

I love our Gro-egg. Just a glance lets me know if I should be going to put the heating on or an extra blanket. We got the KUB Madera set of furniture which I absolutely love & I couldn’t live without my changing unit! The undercot drawer is perfect for extra storage also but I’d say my three must have items are my nursing chair, changing unit & the toddle pod!

Is there anything in the nursery that you haven’t used?

The one thing we got that we could’ve done without is his cot mobile although now he likes to look at it for a minute it really serves no purpose as we don’t use it to get him to sleep and he’s not interested in the music either.

If you could have one dream nursery item, what would it be?

My dream nursery item would be a nursing chair but I have it so yay! I really can’t think of anything else I would dream of having. Oh actually yes it would be a video monitor! For some reason I didn’t think it would be necessary but I’ve since changed my mind when I imagine him being able to stand himself up etc!

Thank you Elaine and little sweetie Angus. The Toddle Pod is a fab idea, I may have to look into one of those for our next baby (whenever that may be!!) You can follow Elaine and Angus on Twitter at @MRSMPGD.

Would you like to take part in “Share your nursery”? If so, please get in touch via Facebook or Twitter, I’d love to hear from you!

Laura x

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