May 28

Is Facebook a necessary evil?

by LifeLoveLaura on May 28, 2013

When I first joined Facebook I was at university in Albany, New York. Big T was also studying in the USA but at the other side of the country in Seattle. Facebook was new back then, just on the cusp of becoming mainstream. I was already a BIG Myspace fan and became a little bit addicted to it whilst out in America, mainly as I missed my friends and family so much that I was checking it at every opportunity hoping to see a message from somebody from home. It’s safe to say that Myspace sparked my obsession with social media so when I first heard ‘Facebook’ mentioned by one of Big T’s friends when I went to visit him in Seattle, I had to check it out. I signed up on 3rd November 2005 and the rest is history, literally.

Whilst I was out in America more and more of my friends joined up so having them all at the touch of a button was perfect for me and Myspace, in spite of the hours and hours spent perfecting my HTML skills and swapping and changing songs on my profile page, was pretty quickly ditched. There was no more faffing about with codes to make your page look pretty and everything was just a hell of a lot easier. Everybody played nice, shared photos of nights out and caught up on what each other had been up to.

And then it became popular…

I’m not in any way saying that Facebook should have been kept as an exclusive members club. What I’m saying is that there used to be lots of good points to using this social networking site in-particular, whereas these days the cons tend to outweigh the pros. A day doesn’t go by where I hear or see somebody say something along the lines of “oh my god, have you seen what so and so has put on Facebook” or “yes I know, I saw it on Facebook.” If you’re unfortunate enough to catch more than five minutes of Jeremy Kyle (being on maternity leave I have seen more than my fair share of this, I can’t bear to watch it anymore!), you will hear people bitching about what they were ‘inboxed on Facebook.’ People can’t help but comment on your business and I can’t help but comment on theirs. Facebook is evil.

I hate it yet I can’t leave. I have deleted and re-activated my account numerous times and I have no idea why. Within minutes of re-activating my account I am usually outraged by someone and joining up again proves that it wasn’t really worth my while! I have friends scattered all over the world that I don’t necessarily see that often. This is the main reason why I keep my Facebook account. I have limited friends on there, I don’t tend to add any Tom, Dick or Harry yet I still have to read utter shite in my timeline. This can be due to the new feature where photos and statuses that my friends have liked will pop up in my feed. What’s that all about?! As far as I’m aware there is no way to stop this. What freaks me out even more is the thought of where can my information end up. I write a status about Little T or post a photo of him, a friend likes it and everybody on THEIR friends list can see it. Where’s the privacy in that? This is why I try to put a cap on how much Little T related stuff that I post on there. Yes, I post photos on here but at least the majority of people come here out of choice, not because it’s forced into their face via a Facebook feed. And don’t even get me started on all of the “if you don’t share this 3000 children across the world will die/share this photo if you drink Diet Coke” bollocks. People who make tripe like this pop up in my face are swiftly deleted, or hidden, at the very least.

There are the sickly couples who seem to only be able to express their love online. What’s wrong with these people? Don’t they have their other halves phone numbers? What statement are they trying to make by posting their undying love on their boyfriends’ wall? In this day and age where most people have iPhones or equivalent, where texts and Facebook comment notifications pop up side by side, why would you choose to post something on Facebook as opposed to sending a smoochy text? Probably because you like the attention that it brings from others by doing it publicly rather than privately. Stop it, you look a twat.

Gym bores. I’ve said before so I won’t go into too much detail but a) we don’t need to see photos of you wearing your aviators in the car on the way to the gym. b) we don’t need to see photos of your ‘abs’ after you’ve been to the gym. c) we don’t need to know how far you’ve run. Just get on with it.

Then… there are the bullies. They are the most poisonous thing about Facebook. The utter gobshites who seem to think that mouthing off on Facebook is the way to go in life. I don’t mean people who post something comical or have a jibe at something, you know the ones I mean. They tend to be a certain type person. They have turned Facebook into the modern day equivalent of people standing on street corners spitting and shouting at you as you walk past. Most of them can’t spell and seem to spend most of their weekends bragging about binge drinking. I hate these the most. They are the sort of people who spout ill informed shit. The sort of people who piped up over the past few days, sticking up Union Jacks as their profile pictures and telling Muslims that “we didn’t fight two World Wars for you lot.” They make me so mad. I have seen some shocking stuff on Facebook, especially over the past week or so. It would be interesting to see if these people are so mouthy in real life or if they hide behind the smoke screen that is their smartphone. It is these people, and there seems to be an increasing amount on Facebook, that spoil it for the rest of us.

Recently, I have contemplated leaving once again. But then I think, why should I have to leave and sacrifice my relationships with friends I see little of as it is, without cutting off ties to them altogether by deleting my Facebook? Yes there is Skype but there are also time zones and busy lives. The beauty of Facebook is that it’s instant. Somebody can post a photo of their gorgeous baby 15 hours previously and it will still be there for you to see and to comment on when you check your timeline later on. Busy lives, a lot of the time, don’t allow for meeting up at specific times to talk via Skype. On Facebook everything is all in one place, it’s accessible. It’s also great for promotion and great for sharing things like blog posts with people who want to read them. These are some of the very few pros that are talking me into staying but these pros are becoming few and far between.

So, I have decided to keep my Facebook account for a little bit longer and suffer the consequences but if you need me, I’ll mainly be over on Twitter where the people tend to be friendlier and on my wavelength.

Laura x

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Hannah June 2, 2013 at 10:04 am

I hate Facebook, but can’t leave for the same reasons as you. Events are all organised on Facebook still as well so our baby limited social life would be even more restricted.

I hear you on the relationships part – I often wonder whether people don’t talk to their partners and they sit next to each other on the sofa communicating through Facebook! Xx


LifeLoveLaura June 6, 2013 at 10:22 am

Seriously Hannah, the couple thing makes me want to spew! Sending each other mushy messages on Facebook walls whilst they’re both at work… send a friggin’ text!!


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